“Lying is one of the most difficult problems to solve. It quickly becomes a habit, and [when discovered] it turns into a major parent-child power struggle.” John Rosemond
Parents are HEROES! That’s right…I said it!
It’s a hard and often thankless job, but parents truly make a difference in their child’s life every single day. So, how do you teach them to be good and honest stewards? How do you show them honesty truly is the best policy? The answer is simple…practice what you preach! Can I get an Amen? Modeling is the best way to instill honest values in our youth and pave the way for their future success.
Honesty begins in the home…but it doesn’t end there!
Budding collaborative publication enthusiast Thierry Koehrlen has assembled an amazing team to create On the Road to Honesty – a fun, life-changing children’s book which teaches both children and parents how to embrace honesty in a fun way.
So, are you ready to create your very own “road to honesty?”
Serving up a warm side of honesty isn’t an easy feat around the holidays. Who really wants to tell their relatives all of the junk going on in their life? It’s much easier to smile, nod, and go with the flow. But shouldn’t Thanksgiving be the time where we all strive to be more honest? If we’re truly thankful, we must first be honest and forthcoming.
So, if you’re shooting for a more honest version of yourself come “Turkey Day,” here’s five pointers to keep in mind.
- Self-Honesty Is the Best Policy
Wouldn’t life be so much easier if we were all honest all the time? The truth almost always comes out eventually, so why not spare everyone the drama? The first step is to be honest with yourself. Take a moment each day to check in and see if you’ve lived an honest day.
How happy are you with your career? Are you living a life you’re content with right now? Can you look in the mirror and tell yourself the truth? Just try it. This creates a more authentic you, which is how you teach your children and others to build trust through honesty. It all begins with YOU!
- Banish the Little White Lies to the Corner
You don’t need a dunce cap, just a dash of honesty! It may be difficult to admit you’re feeling stressed when a friend asks if you’re ok on a particularly hard day.
But have you ever thought maybe he will actually be encouraging and brighten your day if you’re honest with him? Imagine your honest confession of frustration leading to words of encouragement and perhaps a hug or smile from someone who genuinely cares.
Your friend did ask how you were, and even if it only began as an automatic response to seeing you, it will give him a positive boost to lift you up and perhaps the courage to be more honest next time he’s asked “How are you today?”
- Your Name is All You Have
So, protect it with your life! Credibility is built around your reputation. Your words and actions can either positively or negatively impact you and the world surrounding you. Honesty builds trust and integrity.
We must teach our children that the internet isn’t going anywhere – and neither is anything floating around on it. How they represent themselves online says a lot about how they understand credibility.
This is an invaluable lesson to teach your children early on. But how can you lead by example if your example is exceptionally horrible? It’s time to step up your game…and your name!
- Honesty Isn’t Always Fun
When do you risk telling the truth? Always? Never? It’s important to understand that sometimes telling the truth can cause damage to a friendship or get you in trouble – even when it’s the right thing to do.
With that in mind, there are still many good reasons to tell the truth. You may be tempted to cover up the truth with a teeny-weenie omission or a flat out lie for the sake of “saving” a shred of your dignity or protecting someone’s feelings.
But we all know the domino effect that can follow even the smallest lie, and it’s never easy to untangle the web of lies. Lack of honesty can spark many more unhealthy habits. When you lie, you are ultimately hurting not only the recipient but yourself even more because aside from the lie itself, the pain of the truth still lingers. The right road isn’t always the easy road…but in the end, it’s still the right road.
- Teach ‘Em Right from the Beginning
Old habits are hard to break. When a child has already developed dishonest ways, it’s a fight to backtrack down that road. Children’s brains develop “tracks” which carry neurotransmitters to other brain centers. The creation of these tracks helps them remember how to do everyday tasks but can also lead to addictive or compulsive behaviors like lying, cheating, and stealing.
So what can you do to encourage the development of honest habits? Simply add incentives to the process by helping your child to be honest with small rewards and affirmations. When they get caught in a lie, have a list of tasks ready for them to earn back honesty credits by telling the truth. The positive reinforcement of honesty at a young age has long-lasting benefits to both their future and yours!
Undoubtedly, honesty will have a long lasting impact on the rest of your life. So, it’s important to remember that honesty has two tiers, brutal and loving.
Brutal honesty can pierce the heart and isn’t always given with the intent to help.
Loving honesty can be helpful and healing.
Be sure to assess your own thoughts, words, and motivations in order to facilitate a better understanding of honesty. Be loving, BUT honest with yourself, your children, your family, and your friends!
And this Thanksgiving, challenge yourself not only to be thankful…but to be truly honest!
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